Not knowing what you want insures you’ll never find it. There are all kinds of opportunities and objects surrounding us. How do you know what to choose? The other side is when you pick something there always seems to be something missing. You may have even decided what you just acquired isn’t it and you send it back only to discover it is something you want but there is something more but you don’t know what it is. The first step in finding what you want is to know what all your choices are.
I think there are fifteen different ‘things’ or separate areas all of us want. Until I looked at this list I didn’t have a way to determine what was missing. I just knew something was. This list is open for additions and improvements. I will improve or add to each category too. This list is not in any particular order either because if anything is missing the entire list is incomplete. Do you have a feeling that something is missing?
As I have gotten older ‘feeling better’ is a larger part of the conversation. Most people I know would like to feel better and many spend a lot of energy in to having it happen. The healthcare, wellness and fitness industries are about feeling better.
Related is being healthier and living longer, especially if you can have all of these!
Another easy one is the amount of time we spend on relationship, love, experiencing a connection. All of us want more or see where there is room for improvement in this area.
If you have ever lost your temper, said something you wish you could take back or have been disappointed in your behavior you too would like to behave better. We do settle into habits that define us, as we grow older too.
While being smarter may be out of reach, all us would like to make better decisions. We have all experienced moments of clarity, clear thinking that if we had more of those moments it would help in all the other areas.
Ok, there are aisles of books on what it takes to be happy. There is always more happy to have too. No one I know will say no to more happiness!
A second cousin is inner peace; a sense of security that all will be well is on the list.
More money is on my list and the time to enjoy spending it is part of the requirement.
Having a ‘labor of love’ makes earning the money more than worth the time.
I want all my challenges to be Goldilocks ones. Not so easy they are boring and not so hard they keep me frustrated but that group of challenges that are just right!
I want to understand people better. I am sure much of what passes as indifference is really an area where understanding has become too difficult or painful.
I want to be understood too. Don’t you? Of course, I’d like it to happen easily, with as few words as possible and as little explanations as necessary but as long as we are building the list I’ll ask for all of it!
Another aisle of books on being more persuasive. Sometimes I think if I could just have this one all the others would fall into line. Wouldn’t you like to know how to get everything you want using persuasion?!
Everyone I know loves having made a difference. We remember when we have and when we have not. A single word or a timely action we come to the rescue. Don’t you want to know you make a difference? You do by the way, just being who you are.
People want a spiritual connection, that some deny is possible or if you have had a touch of the universe or infinity you want more!
Resist the tendency to collapse a few of these into each other. Each one needs more work in my world and once I had the list wondering what was missing isn’t quite so loud. Did I miss something?